I have read, heard that 'Happiness is a state of mind' since several years ......but always used to wonder is that really a case. One example that always used to come that would set doubts about this statement was...well what happens when anyone loses a loved one. Can they really choose to be not bothered by it and be happy? I mean it seemed ridiculous. But since the last few months the truth of this statement has finally dawned and its here to stay. Yes, there will be many situations in life where we may feel like we are battling a storm, we feel burdened with sorrow, grief, helplessness....we feel we have reached the end of the road and then when we hear someone say 'happiness is a state of mind' your reaction maybe to slap that person and asking him/ her to shut up. I realised I was looking at this statement with a one dimension view. I was assuming it meant to be happy at all times. But then, I realised that was not what it meant. What it meant was you could be currently very hurt, low, depressed but it is in your hands to come out of it and be happy! Yes, thats the choice which only you can make. No one else can make it on your behalf.
There is no debate that death of a loved one brings a lot of pain, hurt. There is no doubt on that whatsoever. However, how long do we want to remain hurt? How long you want to cry? how long you want to remain sad? One day, one month, one year or for a lifetime? That is the choice each of us make. This choice determines the quality of the life we lead. This extends to all situations in life. Especially being angry with someone. How long do you want to be angry? How can do you take to say sorry? How long does it take you to forgive and give another chance? Do you make a mountain of a molehill or a molehill of a mountain? We need to ask ourselves these questions. Life is very short to carry grudges, build hatred, plot for revenge. The only thing that seems worthy of our attention is 'being happy' and appreciate what we have. Talking of appreciation brings a small tale to my mind.....There was a lady who was employed in a good job, she goes to a posh restaurent to have lunch with her friends. The ambience is lovely, food smells good. She is sharing a good laugh with her friends. Waiter is doing his best to make these guests feel at ease. She notices a small stain on the table cloth. This pisses her off. She shouts to the waiter, gets the manager's attention and creates a big scene. All of the fun that seemed to be there a second ago has vanished! Does this sound or look familiar? So many times we have the world at our feet and a small, insignificant missing thing can make us forget all that we have and turn to our ugly side. It is easier to crib than appreciate the good of what we have. Maybe its time to change the focus.......
I have been doing this as a regular practice since the last few months. See the good in all things, people, situation. No matter how bad it is, I make sure I see the good in that. It may not change the situation immediately but it surely changes your mood. It makes you happy, positive and to solve anything in life that is a very key attribute to have!
There is no debate that death of a loved one brings a lot of pain, hurt. There is no doubt on that whatsoever. However, how long do we want to remain hurt? How long you want to cry? how long you want to remain sad? One day, one month, one year or for a lifetime? That is the choice each of us make. This choice determines the quality of the life we lead. This extends to all situations in life. Especially being angry with someone. How long do you want to be angry? How can do you take to say sorry? How long does it take you to forgive and give another chance? Do you make a mountain of a molehill or a molehill of a mountain? We need to ask ourselves these questions. Life is very short to carry grudges, build hatred, plot for revenge. The only thing that seems worthy of our attention is 'being happy' and appreciate what we have. Talking of appreciation brings a small tale to my mind.....There was a lady who was employed in a good job, she goes to a posh restaurent to have lunch with her friends. The ambience is lovely, food smells good. She is sharing a good laugh with her friends. Waiter is doing his best to make these guests feel at ease. She notices a small stain on the table cloth. This pisses her off. She shouts to the waiter, gets the manager's attention and creates a big scene. All of the fun that seemed to be there a second ago has vanished! Does this sound or look familiar? So many times we have the world at our feet and a small, insignificant missing thing can make us forget all that we have and turn to our ugly side. It is easier to crib than appreciate the good of what we have. Maybe its time to change the focus.......
I have been doing this as a regular practice since the last few months. See the good in all things, people, situation. No matter how bad it is, I make sure I see the good in that. It may not change the situation immediately but it surely changes your mood. It makes you happy, positive and to solve anything in life that is a very key attribute to have!
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